Fatal Accident

[Geoff587]

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Now the inquest is over and Deborah's son has been cleared of all blame for a fatal accident in which a biker died , I would just like to show the damage a 1400 Suzuki can do to a small car.
The biker was overtaking on a blind summit when he collided with Jordan head on, the car was spun round 360 degrees, the biker died instantly of multiple injuries and Jordan suffered minor bruising.  He has to live with this for the rest of his life, not easy for an 18 year old.  Too make matters worse he knew the biker who is one of his close friends father, the accident happenend approx 300 yards from the bikers house.  Having rode both ways on my bike and in my car I cannot fathom why he did it.  His widow came and spoke to Jordan at the inquest but the sons and daughters  are having trouble coming to terms with the accident and ignore him on the street.
I,ve tried to explain to him though they know he was not to blame for the accident , they have still lost a father and seeing him reminds them of the accident ( though looking at the car there could have been 2 fatalities) and probably just do not know what to say.

 

[DaveM]

Wow Geoff this is a harsh one for him to have to handle especially knowing the family. Glad he was ok in this as it does look like he could have ended up very badly off or even worse

 

[Dilligaf]

Tough thing for a young man to bear. I hope everyone recovers from this tragic event.

 

[Rocky]

What a terrible tragedy for everyone. Let's hope they're strong and can come out of this OK - all in good time.

 

[CarlS]

Geoff, I remember you and I discussing this when it happened. There are many victims of this needless tragedy, the biker, his family, Jordan, Deborah and you. This is a tough burden for Jordan to shoulder. I wish I had words of wisdom for him; but there are none. To paraphrase Forest Gump, "Stuff happens" and life is not fair. This is certainly a brutal way for Jordan and his friend's family to learn this. I am so glad to learn he was cleared. But that will never erase the scar.

Part of the grief process is anger. I hope that Jordan understands this. The anger is not necessarily logical. To his friend's family, as you noted, Jordan represents an irreplaceable and irrevocable loss to them. Though not logical, their anger may well be directed toward Jordan. That is just part of the grief process and that process can go on for quite some time. Time usually heals; but it may take a while. Even Jordan is going through the grief process. I strongly urge Jordan to get grief counseling both for himself and to understand the process the family is going through. I am not big on counseling; but grief counseling is the exception.

You and I, as with most veterans, have developed our own methods for coping with loss. Jordan, thankfully, has not had the opportunity to do this. He is blessed with a good support system in you and Deborah.

 

[devo]

F_ _k mate,
I don't know wot to say
I knew about it cos you had told me when you were here, but seeing the pic of the car adds a whole new dimension to it.
I agree with Carl on why the other guys kids can,t talk to him. Even tho they know the facts,they cant accept yet that there dad was in the wrong, so they have to have someone to blame. As the hurt subsides, and they come to accept there dad made the blue,then the blame will subside. Unfortunately, their relationship will never be quite the same.
I just sincerely hope Jordan,Debbs and yourself can get thru this without any more hurt.
Harry